Nobody’s perfect. Yup, you too sweetie. But, you can get better by evaluation. Find out what you’re doing right/wrong and what you’re not doing at all. You don’t always have to wait for people to tell you when you’re going wrong. Matter of fact, I grew up as a very self conscious person. Constantly analysing and over analysing myself; physically and psychologically. As a Personality Nine, that is, a Peace Maker, I’m always checking and rechecking myself to ensure I’m acting the way I need to act to avoid conflict. You might call me a bit of a people pleaser, but that’s really not my business.
In actuality, I hate sanctimony and it’s people. People who believe they can never do anything wrong and their actions are always justified. People who don’t believe there’s a different approach to different people. Rather, I like adaptable people. People who are a different person depending on who they’re with.
No sweetie, it’s not. You know that guy who looks down on everyone for something, meanwhile, in actuality, he’s lacking in that area or just lucky to not be? That girl who criticises all the girls she sees with boys publicly but is capable of a gangbang with 4 boys in one night? Yeah! Those people. Those are the fakers. But the adaptable one is that one that knows people and how to approach them. With different people, he/she might seem different; one person might tell you they’re calm and never say anything while another will tell you they’re very vocal and expressive. In actuality, that person is smart and evaluative – of him/herself and – of the environment he/she is in.
Today, sweethearts, I’ll be telling you how you can be the person people love.
You’re a bad guy to someone. That’s just life. But that will be talked about in the next blog post. This post is to tell you how to live an evaluative life.
Consider Every Form Of Criticism
There’s basically 3 reasons why people would criticise you.
- They really want to see the best version of you. This type of criticism tends to be in private -when there’s no one around. It also tends to come as a piece of advice. It comes when people see you tilting toward a negative side and they want to control that before you completely fall.
- They want to ruin everyone’s good thoughts about you. The people who do this are who we call the ’haters’. They’re usually jealous of your achievements – whatever they might be – and look for your weaknesses.
- You really did fuck up. Most times, these are public criticisms too. A person is disappointed and most likely even hurt by whatever you did.
Don’t Always Wait for Criticism.
If you’re a very impulsive person, like I am – that is, you make decisions and take actions as they come to you -, you might need to change.
Second think certain things. I know its different from who you usually are but trust me, it’s better for you.
Don’t Ask Your Friends or People That Like You.
Ask people you barely ever talk to as well. Not your haters sha…because, well, they obviously hate you and so will say anything to bring you down and make you feel bad. Ask people you know you aren’t really close to enough for them to kiss your ass.
In conclusion, carrying you carry out your ’research’, you realise that the person who brought up that bad thing about you or your character is outnumbered, you can write them off. If they aren’t outnumbered, sweetheart, I’m tryna say this in the most subtle way possible; YOU HAVE PROBLEMS AND NEED SOME SERIOUS CHANGING. I’m just kidding. You really do need to change though if people aren’t digging what you’re laying down.
- Have you ever been called out?
- What did you do when you realised there was something you needed to change about yourself?
- Any tips for resetting bad habits?